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It's not just sport. It's life.

Updated: May 19, 2022

I wrote this one in February, but thought it was good one to roll with. I added to it last week - I appreciate all who read it!

As we move along and the winter season is coming to a close at all levels, this is a good time to look back and reflect. How did your season go? Did you live up to expectation? Did you produce the way you thought? Did you learn from each experience or are you staying stagnant?

I've seen a lot of complaints - from parents and players - about coaching and reffing specifically. But, we need to take a step back and re-evaluate what we're doing to make our situations better. The fact is, not every coach is great, not every referee is great and both jobs are incredibly difficult. But, you, the player, are where you are and currently that may be a situation with a not so great coach and a not so great ref. But, if you are using the situation correctly it can yield a lot of positives on your path.

Quite often, we find ourselves frustrated and get into the vicious habit of complaining - this coach plays favorites, this ref stinks and blah blah blah. But ask yourself this - what are you accomplishing by complaining about a coach or a ref? Complain away. If you're right about their flaws, you're in the same spot. If you're wrong, you probably guessed it, you're still in the same spot. So, what exactly is the point? It's not about being right or wrong about them, or pointing out flaws - that accomplishes nothing. Instead, focus your effort on doing what your coach asks as hard as you can, even if you don't agree, and see what happens.

If you are a parent actively